15 Actions for good living
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15 Actions for good living
1. Give up your need to always be right
There are so many of us who can't stand the thought of being wrong – they always want to be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing stress and pain, to ourselves and others. And it's not worth it. Whenever you feel this "urgent" need to start a fight about who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself, "Would I rather be right or be kind?" (Wayne Dyer)
What difference will it make? Is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for control
Be willing to let go of your need to always be in control of everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they're loved ones, co-workers or just strangers you've met on the street – let them be. Let everything and everyone be exactly what they are and you'll see how it makes you feel better.
“By letting go, everything is done. The world is won by those who let go, but you must try and try. The world is beyond victory.” Lao Tzu
3. Stop blaming others
Give up that desire to blame other people for what you have or don't have, for what you feel or don't feel. Stop giving up your power and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Abandon self-destructive chatting
How many people are getting hurt because of your negative, polluted, and repeatedly defeatist mindset? Don't believe everything your mind is telling you – especially if it's something pessimistic. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used correctly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Let go of limiting beliefs
Beliefs about who you can and cannot be, about what is possible and what is impossible. From now on, you are no longer allowed to let your restrictive beliefs get you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
"A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind." Elly Roselle
6. Stop complaining
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, many things – people, moments, situations that make you unhappy or depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or worse, unless you allow it. It is not the situation that releases these feelings in you, but how you choose to face it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Forget the luxury of criticizing
Give up the habit of criticizing things, events, or people that are different from you. We are all different and yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we want to love and be loved and always be understood. We all want something and something is wanted by all of us.
8. Give up your need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be something you're not just to get others to like you. It doesn't work that way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something you are not, the moment you take off all the masks and accept who you really are, you will find that people will be attracted to you – effortlessly.
9. Let go of your resistance to change
Change is good. Change is what will help you go from A to B. Changing will improve your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your happiness, embrace change – don't resist it.
“Follow your happiness and the world will open doors for you where before there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
10. Forget labels
Stop labeling those people, things and situations you don't understand as weird or different and try to open your mind little by little. Minds only work when open.
"The most extreme form of ignorance is when you reject something you know nothing about" Wayne Dyer
11. Let go of your fears
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist – you invented it. It's all in your head. Fix your insides and, on the outside, things will fall into place.
“The only thing you should be afraid of is fear itself” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses
Tell them to pack their bags and tell them they're fired. You don't need them anymore. We often limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing up and working to improve ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kinds of excuses – excuses that, 99.9% of the time, aren't even real.
13. Leave the past in the past
I know I know. It's difficult. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so scary, but you have to take into account the fact that the present is all you have and all you're going to have. The past you are longing for – the past you now dream of – was ignored by you when you were present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey and not a destination. See the future clearly, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Let go of attachment
This is a concept that for most of us is very difficult to understand. And I have to confess that for me it was – still is – but it's not impossible. You get better every day with time and practice. The moment you let go of all things, (and that doesn't mean giving up your love for them – after all, love and attachment have nothing to do with each other; attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, true love is pure, gentle and selfless, where there is love there can be no fear and because of that attachment and love cannot coexist), you will calm down and become tolerant , kind and serene… You will reach a state that allows you to understand everything, without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Stop living your life according to other people's expectations
Too many people are living a life that is not theirs. They live their lives according to what other people think is best for them, they live their own lives according to what their parents think is best for them, or what their friends, enemies, teachers, the government and even the media think it's best for them. They ignore their inner voices, their intuitions. They are so busy pleasing everyone, living up to their expectations, that they lose control of their lives. This makes them forget what makes them happy, what they want and what they need – and one day, they forget themselves too. You have your life – this life now – you must live it, master it and especially not let other people's opinions distract you from your path.